The Relationship Question
After fourteen months of liking this one guy, I’m completely stuck. I’ve tried telling myself I’m over him, but it doesn’t work. At one point I did believe I was over him, but something tiny happened and that was it. I found I still had these feelings. When it first started we talked about it and he said he felt the same, however I believe I merely scared him as it fizzled out a few weeks later and hasn’t been spoken of since. But I really like him. I’m not even sure if he knows that anymore.
The Relationship Advice
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s difficult to get over a relationship. To get a clearer idea of what’s going on you might try to set up a time when you both can talk kindly and calmly. You don’t have to have a long conversation, it’s a good idea to keep it brief. Let each person talk for up to five minutes while the other listens. Don’t react or comment, just listen to each other. You can repeat this process as many times as you both feel is appropriate, the idea is to just learn about each other.
If he wants to talk with you then you’ll learn more about him through your conversations. If he doesn’t want to talk then you’ve discovered something else about him. In any relationship, you decide what kind of person you want to be with and what behaviors you’ll accept.
Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who cares for you and is willing to put the time and effort into working on things with you. Don’t forget to take some time to become the healthiest and most balanced person you can be on your own. You have many talents and abilities whether someone else is in your life or not.