The Relationship Question
I was with this guy for 6 months and now we’re not together anymore. I can’t really get over him and he wants to be friends. He still flirts me and he said he was “debating” whether to ask me out again but, yesterday, he gave me a reason why he doesn’t want to date again. To me, it feels like he’s messing with my emotions. What should I do? I really want him back, but he won’t take me back “yet.” I would appreciate any advice you can give, thank you.
The Relationship Advice
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up and it can leave you vulnerable to someone playing with your feelings. It’s always a good idea to listen to your inner voice, it’s the one telling you what his behavior really means.
If someone loves you in a relationship he’ll treat you wonderfully and won’t play with your feelings. He certainly won’t dangle the “we might get back together” bait in front of you to control you in some way.
You get to decide who you go out with and how you want them to treat you. The behavior you accept from them is how they will treat you. Take some time to think about how you want to be treated and what kind of person you want to be with and you’ll eventually find what works for you. Keep in mind that the idea in a relationship is to be with someone who wants to be with you and helps you move your life in a positive direction. You deserve to be with someone who treats you respectfully. You’re worth it.