Everyone knows that a marriage is full of challenges and saving a marriage is not an easy task. Between finances, jobs, in laws, and children you can often feel like you are just muddling through from day to day. It is often hard to even think about what has gone wrong in your relationship, much less how to repair it.
Many couples throw their hand in the air and just give up only to find that the single life is not any easier than their committed life.
Before you do this, think about your relationship and ask yourself if you want to save it. If the answer is yes, the following tips can help you save your marriage and your love for one another.
Tip #1 – Get rid of all the outside distractions. Many couples have stress from their extended families, friends and jobs that they bring into their relationship. Take some time and figure out what you should leave at the front door or just take a break from while you work on your marriage. Maybe it is time to tell your mother “no visits for three months” or to make a commitment to not talk about work on the weekends.
Tip #2 – Bring sexy back. Sounds crazy, but when marriages are on the rocks the first thing that suffers is intimacy. Get romantic with your partner, wear lingerie, seduce him, give her a massage. Get close physically and you will feel closer emotionally too. It will also save your marriage.
Tip #3 – Have a date night. Plan a date once a week and stick to it. Hire a babysitter and get out of the house even if it is just for a drink or a cup of coffee. Spending one on one time is difficult when you are tired or have needy children pulling at you all of the time. You have to make time for each other so that you can find the passion that drew you together in the first place.
Tip #4 – Give your partner a break. Stop picking on each other for little things. If you pay close attention you will probably find that you pick on him or her more than you realize. Every time you get the urge to complain about something bite your tongue and really think about what you are about to say: Is it worth the argument or are you just being petty?
Tip #5 – Write down how you feel about your beloved. You will be amazed at how many feelings you tap into when you really think about the love you have for that person.