The Relationship Question
I’m 21 and I’m still a virgin. Not completely by choice, but because my last relationship didn’t turn out the way I wanted it to so things didn’t happen. Now, I have done other things so I’m not completely a prude but, because I haven’t done ‘it’ yet, it’s always in the back of my mind when I start talking to someone. I’m talking to someone now and I can’t stop thinking about it, and it’s really getting to me. I’m afraid of what he’ll think or what might happen.
The Relationship Advice
Thank you for sharing your situation. You might find it helpful to approach a relationship as more of a friendship instead of something that has to get serious. You can be friendly and get to know a lot of people without having to do anything you don’t want to.
You get to decide what you do in any relationship. It’s up to you what you find appropriate and what you’re comfortable doing. That means that you get to go into any relationship knowing that you set your own limits and boundaries. It allows you to be yourself and behave the way you want to.
Remember that you deserve to be in enjoyable relationships where you can be yourself, treat yourself well and live a positive life.